PTSD stands for post-traumatic stress disorder, but it’s not a disorder of the brain; the brain is doing what it is naturally supposed to do. What is at fault is the trauma, not the response to it.read more
I am so grateful I learned these techniques in my recovery, because they are my lifelines now, and I still wish I had known them before my breakdown, and so here are my pacing tips for you.read more
‘The habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive. Get out of survival mode. New habits, new life.’ Healing Pathways for your new life.read more
What is Luck, Anyway? Me, on my MS diagnosisread more
Storytelling. Telling our stories. So much more than three words.read more
2017. The year dreams came true.read more
My body is my secret shame. (Well, not so secret now).read more
Learning to stay in the abyss. Until it merely evaporated from around me.read more
Anniversaries can feel very difficult to traverse. This post marks my 9th.read more
Even in recovery, triggers can exist. New ones can even be created. And that’s OK.read more
In times of darkness, we need to look for positivity to bring light.read more
Mindfulness is a bit of a buzzword these days. Being bodyful is just as, if not more, important.read more
A post about looking backwards, and looking forwards, at this time of year was inevitableread more
The Christmas/holiday season is approaching, and many of us are going to be spending time with our families….read more
Enough. “The required degree, or extent”. In what world is sufficient, or adequate the same as ample or abundant? What is enough?read more
Getting to sleep can seem an unattainable dream; here are my tips for how to get a restful night’s sleep.read more
Who says that the pain of a broken heart is less when the relationship lasted a short time, that only the end of a longer relationship deserves tears? A broken heart is a broken heart. There is no hierarchy of pain.read more
When bad things happen to good people the natural, and very normal, response is to scream “it’s not fair!” But it’s what we choose to do about it that counts. Choose life.read more
Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Not. I used to want to scream at people who said that. But it’s true. Allowing ourselves to feel empathy and compassion for others’ pain makes us human.read more
Most people think in terms of fight or flight. But there are three further traumatic responses available. Have you never heard of the rabbit in the headlights?read more
Scent & scented oil. An invisible protection that you can carry in your pocket. A life-saver.read more
We all have the voices inside. The inner critic, the one who bullies you. How do we make peace and quiet the voices that torture us and put us down, when those voices are parts of us?read more
Existing, conventional, approaches to recovery need improvement. The ReConnected Life Experience pioneers a whole-self approach to recovery which empowers us to take control for ourselvesread more
Before Rape. After Rape. People say, we’re forever changed. No. He doesn’t have that power, not anymore.read more
On Eastenders and the lottery win of featuring in the press.read more
Labels are supposed to be useful shortcuts to describe things and people. And yet they come with a whole bunch of preconceptions & associations which are not useful at all.read more
I had a call the other day from a friend of mine. Her friend had told her another friend had been raped; what could this friend do, what should this friend do, to support her?read more
A question was posed in the ReConnected Life Community Group. Should I pursue justice through reporting to the police? The answer here is that it is no-one’s decision but your own. But there are some fundamental self-care questions to consider.read more
Today is 10th April 2016. It’s about 7.30pm now, as I’m writing this. I guess 8 years ago I was meeting him, had already met him probably, by now.read more
I’ve been avoiding this ‘niche’ for a very long time…read more
SAFE PLACE MEDITATION
Relax & Unwind
Feeling safe is so important. Calming our mind and our body from the constant undercurrent of fear & hyper-vigilance.
This 15 minute meditation will take you to your safe space, it will leave you feeling relaxed and empowered.
Download onto your phone, and take your safe place with you, everywhere.
ARE YOU READY TO STOP SURVIVING AND START LIVING?
I developed the ReConnected Life Experience to help people just like you move from a place of self-blame and disconnection to a place where they can look forward to what the future holds, with a happy, hopeful heart.