Thoughts

PTSD stands for post-traumatic stress disorder, but it’s not a disorder of the brain; the brain is doing what it is naturally supposed to do. What is at fault is the trauma, not the response to it.

I am so grateful I learned these techniques in my recovery, because they are my lifelines now, and I still wish I had known them before my breakdown, and so here are my pacing tips for you.

‘The habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive. Get out of survival mode. New habits, new life.’ Healing Pathways for your new life.

What is Luck, Anyway? Me, on my MS diagnosis

Storytelling. Telling our stories. So much more than three words.

2017. The year dreams came true.

My body is my secret shame. (Well, not so secret now).

Learning to stay in the abyss. Until it merely evaporated from around me.

Anniversaries can feel very difficult to traverse. This post marks my 9th.

Even in recovery, triggers can exist. New ones can even be created. And that’s OK.

In times of darkness, we need to look for positivity to bring light.

Mindfulness is a bit of a buzzword these days. Being bodyful is just as, if not more, important.

A post about looking backwards, and looking forwards, at this time of year was inevitable

The Christmas/holiday season is approaching, and many of us are going to be spending time with our families….

Enough. “The required degree, or extent”. In what world is sufficient, or adequate the same as ample or abundant? What is enough?

Getting to sleep can seem an unattainable dream; here are my tips for how to get a restful night’s sleep.

Who says that the pain of a broken heart is less when the relationship lasted a short time, that only the end of a longer relationship deserves tears? A broken heart is a broken heart. There is no hierarchy of pain.

When bad things happen to good people the natural, and very normal, response is to scream “it’s not fair!” But it’s what we choose to do about it that counts. Choose life.

Pain is Inevitable, Suffering is Not. I used to want to scream at people who said that. But it’s true. Allowing ourselves to feel empathy and compassion for others’ pain makes us human.

Most people think in terms of fight or flight. But there are three further traumatic responses available. Have you never heard of the rabbit in the headlights?

Scent & scented oil. An invisible protection that you can carry in your pocket. A life-saver.

We all have the voices inside. The inner critic, the one who bullies you. How do we make peace and quiet the voices that torture us and put us down, when those voices are parts of us?

Existing, conventional, approaches to recovery need improvement. The ReConnected Life Experience pioneers a whole-self approach to recovery which empowers us to take control for ourselves

Before Rape. After Rape. People say, we’re forever changed. No. He doesn’t have that power, not anymore.

Labels are supposed to be useful shortcuts to describe things and people. And yet they come with a whole bunch of preconceptions & associations which are not useful at all.