You've been coping just fine. But it's just been coping.
Something's happened to make you want to be rid of what's still got a hold over you.
It's time to stop surviving. It's time to start thriving.
Teach me
I want a structured thrivers programme I can trust, that I can do in my own time from home, that has been curated to include resources especially for survivors of sexual violence ready to move from surviving to thriving
Coach me
I want one-to-one support from somebody who has been there and come out the other side to guide me through this next stage of my recovery to thriving
Sanctuary
I want to be supported in a membership programme that provides structured, support and guidance within a community for women seeking accountability and practices that promote healing and growth
What people say
Of course, maintaining anonymity is very important to many of my clients. Names have only been attributed with explicit consent.
“Emily is an excellent coach who is gently challenging so I don’t stay stuck in my thinking. Whilst at the same time making me feel safe about sharing anything I am thinking or feeling without feeling silly. The tools she has given me help me feel confident to handle any situation. I would highly recommend Emily’s programme to anyone who has suffered a trauma.”
Nicci
“It is so deeply comforting to be able to talk to someone who understands at such a fundamental level what I've gone through and how devastating it was – both the rape and its aftermath – and who can also offer such a message of hope for the future.“
Anonymous
Frequently Asked Questions
How does coaching work?
Coaching gives you a supportive safe space to explore what’s going on for you and learn new skills that enable you to design the life you want to live – and live it. My approach to coaching is trauma-informed through my own experiences, and compassionate. If you want a drill-master, that is not me. Instead, if you slip off the path, I gently nudge you back.
Don’t I need counselling instead?
You might. If your trauma is new, a therapist is often your best bet. A safe place to make sense of the story, to sort the pieces of it in your mind is a very necessary step. But there comes a time when telling yourself your story starts to hold you back. There’s that saying – ‘the habits you created to survive will no longer serve you when it’s time to thrive.’ New neuro pathways need to be created, ones that will open up the world to you, not close it down.
What do we discuss
Whatever you are comfortable sharing. I won’t press you on anything that you’re not ready to confront.
Do I have to go 'there'?
No! Many people believe we have to unpick the story of what happened and face into it. I am not one of those people. You have been living that story already for so long; you don’t need to face into it anymore. We work slowly and gently around the edges of the wound, until one session, usually around session 4 or 5, you’ll notice, it scarred over.
Are our sessions confidential?
Yes! As well as it being the absolute right thing to do, I am a certified member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) who’s ethics code rightly insists on confidentiality. I am also of course compliant with GDPR and data privacy requirements. Of course, it’s not two-way: you’re allowed to share whatever you want to anyone you want.
How long are the sessions?
About 90-120 minutes. It takes time to get to the deep stuff. My style is to never rush you there – that approach might work for business coaches, but we’ve got a different topic and it’s important to give it the time and sensitivity needed. Have you ever had a counselling session, you were just getting to the ‘good stuff’, and it was time to end? Me too.
I’m worried about how I’ll feel after a session
I recognise that you’ll have a life to get back to after our sessions; you can’t be an exhausted melted heap. This is why I spend time at the end of every session with a meditation, that not only embeds the learning into the unconscious, but also leaves you empowered and at peace.
Where do we meet?
Sessions are held over Zoom. If you need help getting set up with the technology, I can provide some support (although I’m not too techy! Which is the joy of Zoom; you don’t have to be.
It’s best if you can arrange to meet at a time and place where you won’t be interrupted and can talk in private.
Do I have to be on video?
Whilst it is helpful to be able to see your facial expressions, some of my clients (initially) prefer not to be on camera. And that’s perfectly ok too.
What about between sessions? Is there any support?
Yes! We’ll discuss the appropriate structure for you, but for coaching clients there will always also be 24/7 access to me via Signal. I’ll respond within 24 hours (except at weekends and holidays) and we can use voice or text.
Can I pay for coaching in instalments?
Yes. We’ll discuss any requirements and come to a mutually agreed solution.
Can I get a refund?
Coaching is about what you put into it. If for any reason you do not want to continue with your programme we will review your individual circumstances and come to a mutually agreed solution.
Digital programmes are available in full from the point of payment, and so will not be refunded.