Trauma-informed TEACHing for women who want to move past their past.
Developed for survivors, by a survivor.
Rape isn't a life sentence
There is a way to stop simply surviving and start living again. You don't have to find it alone.
EMILY JACOB
Founder
ReConnectedLife
Hi, I'm Emily
Have you had enough of faking it, hanging it in there, keeping going, fooling everyone that when you say you’re fine, it’s actually true?
You’re exhausted by the subterfuge. Holding on by a thread, terrified that it’s going to break, right at the wrong moment. Like when your boss criticises your work, or your partner comes home late, leaving you with the chores?
Suddenly, you’re not holding it in anymore, you’re in tears, you’re screaming. You know your response is out of proportion to what happened. You know, really, why.
I know you know. Because I was there too.
High functioning anxiety, I think they’d call it. Well, they called it complex PTSD and severe dissociative disorder.
Labels, schmabels. Hiding from fixing the cause of the anxiety, panic attacks, depression. Hiding the real me. Because I didn’t want to go back there to what had caused it. Not ever.
I mean, I had. I’d taken my medicine, gone to the counselling. They’d said that was all I could get. So I figured I’d get used to it, paper over the cracks, get on. And not be defined by it.
Except I was being defined by it, wasn’t I? By hiding, I wasn’t being me.
You want to be you. You miss her. You never really got to know her well enough. You wonder sometimes, what would that lost girl make of your life now?
I found myself again. And I can help you find yourself too.
The first and hardest step is to reach out.
I’ve got you from there.
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When you've survived something as harrowing as sexual violence, the act of disclosure, of sharing your experience, is a journey fraught with vulnerability and uncertainty. For many survivors, this process of finally having the courage to say what has happened and seek...
Embracing Emotional Balance: From Surviving to Thriving
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Embracing Healing: Your Journey, Your Responsibility
Healing after a traumatic experience, especially one as deeply wounding as sexual assault, is undeniably a complex and personal journey. It's a path lined with pain, unfairness, and the heavy weight of something that should never have happened. Yet, within this...
What people say
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“Working with Emily is amazing, she just understands exactly what I need so much better than any therapist I have ever worked with. I have been dealing with this stuff for a very long time now, and really feel like I am making those big, deep changes that are sustainable.”
‘LUCY’, business owner, wife, and mother
“She helped me more in 90 minutes than my therapist did in 2 years.”
ALICE COUDENE
“Thank you for giving me my marriage back.”
CLARE NAUGHTON, business owner, wife and mother
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